DIVORCE QUESTIONS, ANSWERS, INFORMATION
WHAT TO DO? WHEN TO DO IT? HOW TO DO IT?
ARTICLES ON DIVORCE TOPICS
DIVORCE GAMES; MEDIATION; REAL ESTATE, HIGH CONFLICT or STALKING In FAMILY COURT?DIVORCE CAN BE PLANNED AND YOU CAN CONTROL IT
If you are thinking about divorce, you need to explore options and define goals before you contact an attorney. This will help you reduce fees and retain control.
Maybe you want help in deciding if divorce is right for you. Decision making know how is important. see Should I Divorce?
If you are already divorcing and feeling confused and angry, you may need a support team.
Everyone needs information on alternatives to expensive litigation, or how to find legal representation that works for you. Emotional support is critical. Most attorneys are not going to give you this information. What other alternatives are there? Should you represent yourself? Use a paralegal? Or, are you someone who should have a mainstream divorce with a strong, aggressive attorney?
DIVORCE is a difficult time. Anger, frustration and confusion are typicaI, but it doesn't have to be that way. Divorce should not bankrupt, traumatize or destroy you.
What can I do for you? And how do I know what to do?
If you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there. Most people enter a divorce by walking into an attorney's office, telling them how much they have in assets and debts and then finding out how much the retainer will be. The amount of the retainer is based on the complexity of your situation and your assets.
But today, many people are deciding that $300 to $500 an hour is not how they want to spend their money. Instead people are turning to mediation, collaborative law, attorneys as consultants, paralegals and representing themselves as viable alternatives. Sometimes though, an attorney representing both parties is still the right way to go.
I can help you:
I provide information and planning with compassion and common sense to help you make decisions that are right for you. I work with you so you control the process as you navigate separation and divorce. Lack of knowledge of finances and failure to plan are common, especially with women. I decided to help others divorce with dignity through information, support, and planning.
- plan before you see a lawyer (the best time for planning)
- find alternatives to litigation
- decide which process is best for you
- understand what a support system can do for you
- refer you to local ethical attorneys and mediators, and financial planners
- explain the divorce culture and help you navigate it
- find answers
You can contact me for consulations through my website narcissisticabuse.com
No information or materials posted here are intended to constitute legal advice. Contact an attorney to obtain legal advice.
ABOUT ME
author "Divorce: The Real Truth, The Hidden Dangers: Surviving Deception, Betrayal and Narcissism"
Ann Bradley,M.A., PhD Candidate
University of Pennsylvania, Antioch, Stanford
author, consultant, researcher, certified positive psychology coach from University of Pennsylvania
My website on narcissism was referenced in July/Aug 2003 issue of the legal journal, Managing Partner: "Risk and the Rogue Partner: Turning Hindsight into Foresight".
My Book on Divorce
I use examples from my divorce and from others divorcing in Silicon Valley. It is also a book about a narcissistic legal culture and the role narcissism plays in greed and fraud in divorce. It is both story and guidebook, full of information and planning strategies. Available as an
I have been through a difficult, challenging divorce. I was stunned by the unethical, damaging, and unnecessry tactics used. This experience led me to research the divorce industry, lawyers and alternatives. I discovered these tactics are common and divorce lawyers use them ruthlessly. I found enormous corruption, greed and lies. I interviewed people divorcing in Silicon Valley and I write of their stories of corrupt judges, unethical attorneys. Most importantly, I learned how to avoid these abuses by planning and correct use of information. This is a book on divorce, divorce lawyers and how to avoid the traps."Divorce: The Real Truth, The Hidden Dangers: Surviving Deception, Betrayal and Narcissism"
ebook "Divorce: The Real Truth, The Hidden Dangers: Surviving Deception, Betrayal and Narcissism"
MORE.......Divorcing a narcissist? This is a special problem. Depending on your spouse you may have a most difficult divorce. A narcissist will use the legal system as a weapon . I can help you address the special issues of narcissism in the divorce process.
With the encouragement of a few ethical attorneys and those I met through my website on narcissism, I started this Divorce Consultantcy so you can learn how to divorce with dignity.
Cooperation
I sat in a courtroom and listened to a judge in family court say to divorcing spouses: "Go out in the hall and work out a solution. The ones you come up with will work better than the one I will give you. You will be happier with your decision than with mine."She is right. But sometimes you can't find the way to a solution. Often a divorce lawyer will be the reason you are kept from a solution. The Honorable Judge Kass of New Mexico calls these attorneys, "scorched earth policy attorneys" and says there are far too many of them. They can keep you from settlement and make a war where none need be.
"Divorce is an annual 30+ billion dollar industry. This money goes to the lawyers, judges, courts, "expert witnesses", mediators and evaluators that live off the divorce mill. Money is the fuel that makes marketing this industry very lucrative. It thrives on the innocence of its victims and their fragile emotional state. It tells them, "trust me" then abuses that trust. It encourages litigation when negotiation would be cheaper and less emotionally destructive." "Divorce: The Real Truth, The Hidden Dangers: Surviving Deception, Betrayal and Narcissism" by Ann Bradley
Planning and information make the difference between divorce nightmares and divorcing with dignity.Ann Bradley, M.A.
ARTICLES on Divorce TopicsHIGH CONFLICT or STALKING THROUGH FAMILY COURT? READ THIS
READ THIS INFORMATIVE ARTICLE ON DIVORCE DIVORCE GAMES
PROPERTY TO DIVIDE? read REAL ESTATE and DIVORCE
MEDIATE or LITIGATE? read MEDIATION vs LITIGATION
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"You have most definitely made it possible for me to clearly understand what has happened.Thanks! " S.F."Thank you for helping me, I appreciate knowing about this information" B.T.
WOMEN: The Tao of Divorce will help you if you are feeling unsure of yourself. After you read it, you may not need to be a "warrior" but you will know the rules. The Tao of Divorce is for anyone and everyone who needs a leg up in self esteem and how to take charge in a divorce. CLICK HERE
This is not legal advice, it is the information needed to be an informed consumer and to divorce with dignity.
